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Monday, December 30, 2013

Cop Moms or Mom Cops...What Comes First?

Women balancing motherhood and cophood. It's happening. Most make the best of it. Balancing being a single mom and the cophood is another whole ball of wax. Do a double take when you next see a woman in blue...

It was hard at times. Now, with teenagers, it was a perk. You can really keep an eye out on your kiddo, embarrass them as much or as often as you like. What was difficult to swallow was when cop's kids were ashamed of their parent's profession out of fear of peer pressure. Top that with all the dynamics at home and work and it makes a woman crazy. Plus, it is different being a cop mother than a cop father. Reality, but truth.

So...next time you look at a women in blue with a shiny badge, think twice about all the outside forces, home life, or motherhood affecting her every minute of the day. Think about how she keeps all that together at home-her personal life, her work situations, the pressures of every day life, citizen pulls, and administration pushes, just so she can be a good, stable cop and outstanding law enforcement officer to her community. Chances are...being a mother is first on her mind and she has to put that aside to focus on the task at hand...fighting a bad guy, arresting a child molester, making a traffic stop, talking to a parent, buying a glass of lemonade at your kid's lemonade stand...or maybe in this weather...hot chocolate.

And yes, cops are moms and dads, too.

19 comments:

Well Seasoned Fool said...

The Sheriff's son was a high school classmate. He was tough enough he could handle the crap that came his way. The crap was wrong. Teacher's kids and preacher's kids catch crap too.

firepup said...

Hmmm. What about Dad cops? Or cop Dads?

Momma Fargo said...

WSF, I agree. I have also noticed since I am no longer a cop, my daughter gets no guff like she did in Casper.

Momma Fargo said...

firepup,

They are different. :D

firepup said...

Gender discrimination? From you?

Momma Fargo said...

firepup, NOT gender discrimination. I am just recognizing the differences. They are there. For years, women cops just wanted to be treated equal. Well, they aren't men. Just like cop dads are different from cop moms. Society still frowns on women sacrificing family to be a cop and a mother, but it is less frowny for a man to remain in a job that sacrifices family time. Admit it. I'm right. :D

firepup said...

It is EXACTLY gender discrimination. You can't have it both ways. You have half the women screaming that there is no difference, and the other half screaming that there IS a difference. Yet, they scream to treat us like there is no difference.

Any wonder us guys get confused?

How about this one, from your most trusted news source.

http://www.npr.org/2013/12/27/257363943/marines-most-female-recruits-dont-meet-new-pullup-standard

Momma Fargo said...

firepup, I'm not trying to have it both ways. I think both genders can do the jobs well, not the same. Boys can't be mothers. Girls can't be fathers. Girl cops are different from boy cops, but can do the same job, but differently. The pullup standard...yeah. I'm not surprised. Upper body strength is more difficult for a woman, but it is possible. They will have to train differently. CrossFit, weight lifting, things like that will help them.

Momma Fargo said...

firepup, AND...society views us differently..moms, dads, cops.

firepup said...

So, the females should meet the same requirements as the males....

firepup said...

And if you are not trying to have it both ways, all that means is you are in the third half of females....

Momma Fargo said...

firepup,
yes, on the pullups.
no, on being a parent and a cop. I wish it could be the same. It's different. Embrace different! It's OK to be different! LOL

Momma Fargo said...

firepup,

The only way is my way. I am not sure where that falls, but it is the only one that is important. Remember that. ;)

firepup said...

Yes Ma'am. You are correct. As always. LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

Momma Fargo said...

Grinning ear to ear now! Thank you for seeing it my way, Mr. Firepup. :)

Old NFO said...

Same with the military families, especially now with women going into 'combat' roles... The ONLY saving grace is the military is a supportive community when the parent deploys...

Mad Jack said...

Mad Jack: Hey, check this out... that chick by the door, man. You know her?
Shorty: Yeah. That's Susie Swivelhips.
Mad Jack: So do me a favor and introduce me.
Shorty: Okay. Hey, you know about her dad, right?
Mad Jack: Nope.
Shorty: He's a cop.
Mad Jack: Straight money?
Shorty: You can take it all the way to the bank. But hey, go ask her for yourself.
Mad Jack: Eh. No. Not today. I'm hittin' the road.
Shorty: What? We just got here.
Mad Jack: Stay if you want, but don't be calling on me to bail you out once that chick's father busts you for something.
Shorty: Yeah... say, give me a ride to Vern's?

And we cleared half the room on the way out. Back then, you just didn't hang out where the cops were, and that included the family's of cops. No matter what. If there was a cop in the neighborhood, you crossed the street rather than walk past his house.

CI-Roller Dude said...

When I was a kid, my dad was in the Air Force. He was an NCO in the motor pool. One of the kids in the neighborhood had a dad who as an AP (Air Police- like an MP) and the kid was blabbering about how his dad could arrest anybody.

I told him without my dad, his dad would be walking.

then I grew up and became a cop.... I always was nice to the folks who took care of our cars.

Bob G. said...

Momma Fargo:
What a marvelous way of describing the truth out there behind the shield.

Helluva balancing act...for REAL.
VERY well said, dear.

You and Bug have a VERY Happy New Year, Kiddo.
And always roll safe out there.
See 'ya NEXT year...lol.