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Tuesday, March 29, 2016

Social Diseases

Thought I was going to talk about STD's? Or one of the Hemsworth boys? Guess again. 

Today is all about platforms. Platform shoes? 

Right now...while I'm talking about this topic...picture me wearing these.
Wait. Don't do that. I would fall down.

Socio-economic problems are one of our worst family issues in America. No, I am not talking about dirt in the vagina.

The OTHER social problems. These matters put all our children at risk. Yes, poor people can overcome poverty to reach their goals. Poor people can become super great. Rich people can be bad. Kids in Middle America? I'm a product of that and it doesn't exist anymore.

If rich people get derailed on the road of life, what or who do you have to blame? Parents? Environment? The Person?

Yes. These three factors in the general sense of the words are equally shaping a person and is true for all Earthlings and may have an affect on their life outcomes.

But poverty adds in a financial crutch to the equation.

What social issues go along with poverty? A half dozen problems I can imagine...

1. Lack of opportunities
2. Criminal activity
3. Different educational experiences
4. Moral commitments
5. Health issues and obesity
6. Continuation and cycle of poverty in families

I do not have a scientific degree or any clinical research experience to back up my claims. These are just observations from the job which come from field experience. I don't care how you want to sugar coat social services, welfare, availability of vocational education, or the internal drive of a person...you can't put lipstick on a pig. You just can't.

Many of what is ingrained in our kids is derived from nurture and nature. What is taught...what is environment........both impact their outcome in life.

Believe it or not- it's your choice. 

BUT- don't fool yourself by saying it's all the same for every kid. It's not. And if a kid becomes something super great from any walk of life...you have to look at their inner strength and drive and how they were raised.

Why is there such a disparity? 1. Is it the provocative racial epidemic? 2. Is it money driven? 3. Is it geographical? 4. Is it generational?

It might be all of the above.

Solutions? I can offer a dozen.

1. Get fresh food into the poor neighborhoods and stop making junk food so easy. Exercise.

2. Get your family to the dinner table. Clean your fucking house. Give the children chores. Teach them to do household tasks, but don't make them slaves to your home.

3. Stop giving so many handouts and making it easy for parents to sit on the couch.

4. Get the kids outside playing in the sunshine.

5. Encourage all kids to learn the basics: English, math, science and graduate from high school. 

6. Make vocational training mandatory in welfare families for parents with deadlines to landing a job. If a job isn't landed, cut off the benefits or decrease incentives. They need a timeline to completion. 

7. Reward the kids based upon merit with scholarships to college or trade school, and encourage others for military opportunities or learning a trade. Pick one. Do it. Finish it. 

8. Community partnerships and neighborhood commitments must be in harmony to lift up the rational pursuit of self-interest and pride in poverty stricken areas. Programs, parks, and facilities need to be built into the neighborhoods. Nice apartment dwellings for low income isn't fixing any problems. They just look nice. It is one solution to provide safe and clean housing, but you have to tackle the other social problems along with it. Urban development in cities must be focused on destroying condemned buildings, raising building and landlord codes/regulations, and dedicating funds for driving neighborhoods into improvement. Code enforcement and programs to assist home owners must be in place. 

9. Fix the justice system inadequacies and the current state of perplexities. Laws need to be amended and sentences need to be fair according to the crimes. Prison sentences have to be harsh and carried out with follow through from corrections. Plea deals have to be for best interest of justice with rehabilitation a key factor. Whether this is by prison term or job corp, or service...there must be mandatory minimums with no good time. Make probation and parole structured and designed for an increase in successful outcomes. Make agents accountable. 

10. Investments both financially and emotionally must be dedicated for these projects and invest in our children as parents and a village. 

11. Stop giving our kids stuff and give them substance. (Not the illegal kind)

12. Get cops with selected personalities to blend in these neighborhoods to make a positive impact on crime and develop relationships with the kids. They need to be committed to patrol all neighborhoods and combat the social and criminal problems. It's community policing at its finest. Bring the programs to the neighborhoods, don't expect them to come to you. Squash out gang activity. 

These are no easy tasks. 

Now is the time to change the new generation of children for the better. We can't keep escalating these social problems, although I see it being inevitable in this generation of entitlement we have created. I'm about to bust a nut and I don't have any.

Egads. Ugh. Gah. Fuck.

We have seen what has happened over the last few generations. This case is just a prime example of all these problems blended into one horrific death. One child's death is one too many. Additionally, neighborhood crisis hits big city areas and targets young children with criminal enterprise and gang shootings.  I know gang violence all too well as my nephew was killed by a gang member while on the street corner in Omaha many years ago. The reason? The suspect said in court, "He looked at me the wrong way."

Each time a generation transforms to the next, the next generation tries to make up for or correct the last generation's mistakes or shortfalls. That's a mouthful. I hope it makes sense. These corrections or extras are not always a good thing. Technology has impacted our families. It's up to us to make it work for us instead of against us.

So what's in your basket of ideas?


Cheryl said...

WOW...you don't mess around with an easy topic but go right for the OMG..that's complicated kind of topic this morning.

I think your points are very well taken...especially those that deal with motivation and pride. I came from a very poor family. Always worked hard but low end wage earners. No substance abuse or anything, just hard working people. The thing about my childhood and being poor was that we weren't alone. A lot of people were poor and yet our parents and grandparents, made us wash our faces, put on our "dress" clothes and go to church every Sunday and work the other 6 days. Even small children walked beans and picked cotton when I was little.

Fast forward to now...somewhere along the line that work ethic somehow vanished, entitlement took over and pride and motivation was reduced to wisps of their former selves.

For a number of years I managed an employment office and it was a eye opener. There is no "typical" reason why someone is looking for work but, for the most part, it isn't about personal betterment. I would say in the 7 years I spent trying to find jobs for people with the hope they would show up on week two, or even the next day...rarely did I hear people say that they wanted to give 110 percent to something. Mostly, I heard why the deserved the best, high paying job. You would be shocked at the lack of effort that went into the job hunt, which never bodes well for how much effort would go into working the job.

After I moved and went back into real estate, I can tell you that the lack of effort plays out in that arena too. Here in upper middle class, homes are filthy and cluttered. Not all, of course, but a whole lot of them. Buy, buy, buy...stuff and more stuff. Pride is way behind materialism. People are motivated not to better their long term goals but for very short lived electronics and such.

Big complex problems with complex solutions.

Bob G. said...

Momma Fargo:
Coming out with BOTH barrels BLAZING...well done!
On your 5 points about POVERTY:
1) Agreed, but also a LACK OF DESIRE TO PURSUE THEM.
3) If by "different" you mean screwing around in class, then I agree. Same opportunities exist for ALL kids.
4) Must be all those front yard cookouts?
5) Oh, yeah...numero uno.

---Easy to observe people and know what to look for...yes, indeed.
---CHOICES...wow, where have I heard THAT before? (ROFL)
1) Good luck with that - SNAP and WIC it ain't.
2) Yeah, get back to BASICS there!
3) Yes, yes, and yes again.
4) Just not on MY lawn or the middle of the damn streets.
5) (see #3)
6) DITTO for the above answer.
7) Beats the "everyone wins" mentality every time.
8) Harmony YES, cacophony - NO.
9) That's too east a fix, but I agree.
10) Investments YES - entitlements - NO.
11) And the sooner...the better.
12) That's easier said than done - not enough entering the recruitment programs.

Excellent post. Lots of good thoughts and practical applications to be found here.
(you MUST read my blog a LOT...LOL)

Roll safe down there, dear.

Momma Fargo said...

Cheryl...you are so brilliant you should run for office. I mean that as a compliment. You are a solution finder and a big ideas type of person. Great points and so much truth to it!

Bob G...Yes, the middle of the streets. That's where we played and we respected the right of way for vehicles and bicycles. Where else can you play hockey with a soccer ball?

Old NFO said...

Well said, and you know your ideas make WAY too much sense... sigh They'll never get implemented because somebody might actually get OFF welfare!

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